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What makes life last

1. The Google search for everlasting life

 “Find out what makes life last” is what I heard

and, bloated with frustration, belched the word:      “Last” [>Search]

“Which answer would you like?” my fury rasped.

And while the keyboard kicked out “life” and “last”;

the screen swept back two billion thoughts, reckoned

by the net in one eighth of a second.   

 

What the Blogotropes say

This is life at last:

it lasts a Life

when you live life to the last.

You can have a faster life,

a master life, an afterlife.

Why not make your profits last,

Your losses last

Lost Prophets last.

Learn when to make your …

How to make your love last,

Your lust last,

You come last.

Make a marriage that will last

Let this marriage be your last:

Another woman saved your life

last night.

We make batteries that last and last;

We make power first and last

We can make your powers last,

flowers last, last hours last …

When did you last change your life?

Get change from life?

Arrange your life?

Enjoy the good life last?

Draw up a last account?

You must sustain the chain of life

and get yourself an aim in life,

Design for Life.

And still you bear the pain of life

however long it lasts.

 

You’re living with the lasting cost of care

You’re in the last year of your life,

You’re looking to give meaning

To your life’s last days.

The last thing you will think of

is how life’s made –

is life everlasting?

is it really life-size?

And the last thing you will think of

is the last man on Mars.

 

No! not this, no!

Is “now” and “fast”

more true than slow,

more real than past?

I want to know

What makes life last;                                                                     

But clichés flow

like oil on glass:

 

Treasuring each moment leaves us stronger –

that’s how God can make our lives last longer.

… Now you can make lives last with consequence

playing Zombie Apocalypse Defence.

… Please donate freely here to spread the word

of godlessness to the living and interred.

 

It was so clear only a seer

who’d persevere more than my years

could engineer an answer here.

Could I be the line that veers?

At the bedside at the ebbtide

“acceptance” is the golden rule,

the goal which gets us through,

the tool which can outwit the ghoul

that plays us for a grieving fool.

A quality which makes life last could be

anywhere – from sense up to infinity,

from culture, chemistry to my settee

from then to here, as far as we can see.

And how would I know what the search has missed?

if there’s no answer? if answers exist?

Yes sure, death itself lends us no way back,

but life’s, like white, the other side of black;

so if there are five stages in our grieving

might we stop the search where we could be leaving?

Grief’s said to trail five steps behind the hearse

so why not follow grieving in reverse?

reject acceptance and the bargain stage,

then break depression and denial with rage?

 

 

The Mourning News – Acceptance

Last words aren’t those our dear departed used,

they’re not composed and muttered by a muse;

wise up: they’re what the vigil-keepers choose.

 

 

… We’re tuning in to the mourning news:

the razored questions, mouthwash views,

Westminster bruisers who cynically excuse

abuses by our spooks and snoopers,

a journalist who just can’t listen

as he’s too intent on pissing

off the guests who he’s accused,

and a caller who’s a bit obtuse.

There’s a shot of politics at eight o five,

prompt and daily, tough and live

that ministers dare not refuse;

then the slot where young articulate smart-

arses ridicule the arts,

and a drab parade of boring farts

or someone skilled at baking tarts,

and spots for language to unravel

in outlandish sporting babble

sandwiched by a prayer and weather,

which somehow keep it all together.

This is the page that keeps accounts,

this is the field where the ball is bounced

this stage is where the critic flounced

and is momentarily renounced

because: “… The death has been announced…”

 

And suddenly the medium has pounced.

It happened just a moment ago

but reports will cover everything we know

and it will be as ever blow by blow.

His death will be a shock to those

who loved him and those not quite so close;

the fact that he’ll be missed goes

without saying, almost, as the story flows

of a man who claimed the People were his bros.

We hear that he’s a “national treasure”,

a man of energy and leisure,

urbane and foul-mouthed under pressure,

mysterious and born in Asia,

(though some said Esher, others Cheshire),

arbiter of taste but styleless dresser

most charming when he played aggressor –

just a guy like us or

a saint in contemplation,

modest, shy on all the TV stations.

We bathed in hope and empty pleasure

and gave him ceaseless approbation 

sweetened smugly with our indignation

at his apparent abnegation.

 

Flick

So I opened a door

and I came upon a heron on the lawn ...

 

Beyond the garden, lost in lanes,

stubble stumps and flails in far farm fields,

as if resisting some coming catastrophe.

Catsear grows dwarfed,

tucked into the grass out of sheepreach.

Yarrow, hawkbit, hemp agrimony,

the hangers on into October

are watching the landslope corrode or

the season flick a switch.

The landscape leans forward

it’s all spaced and pinched for winter.

Though warmth and water weaken dying stems

everything now is food and sustenance,

the matter of who’s eating whom.

Decay and advantage fall into balance;

mosses supersede the grass;

a new kingdom rules the lions and clowns:

its messages passed underground

on hidden threads that make connections

between acceptance and affection.

You can tell if your head’s too close to the ground

when you can see shadows of birds and clouds.

 

... Yet when I came upon the heron on the lawn

I opened a door.

 

 

There’s a place across fields heading for town

where dead people decompose underground;

studying the headstones there I found …

 

The point

There’s a problem ahead. We’ll all soon be dead;

so it won’t matter much whatever we’ve said.

And if in the end we’re all going to croak

what’s got more point: life? death? or a joke?

If we die yet influence the lives of others –

so what, when they too are all doomed snuffers?

Most of our achievements, if we’ve got them,

charm a generation till forgotten,

and memories of what we’ve been and done

in time will thin out to names etched in stone;

so who’s to know that we had brains or hearts

if we’re just dates on documents and charts?

When engraved names too succumb to weather

when we’ve become someone else’s whatever

with our bones returned to the cells of plants

it won’t matter then what we had in our pants.

All species fade, and mankind’s extinction

could mean that you and I will lose distinction.

Yet might humans, godlike, some day disperse

to populate a neutral universe?

Will we feature then in heroic verses

or follow them on photos in their purses?

 

 

It’s too late for me now to get into trouble,

so I’ve been pondering as I do most days

whether I should write the Great English Novel,

and if so what was left for me to say.

Then it occurs to me, as most days when I

ponder, that I too am going to die.

Though I grasp the logic of acceptance,

is there a hint of sadness and reluctance?

my jagged mind cranks down towards the chief

and second stage of self-defeating grief.

 

 

The Mourning News – Depression

A pall pulls down on his finale:

it lasts a while, we don’t keep tally.

It’s not as if we’ve been that pally,

we didn’t know him well, not personally,

though we always thought he’d be our ally

if we’d tried to challenge

funding for the opera or ballet

an airport in the Severn Valley,

that Hailey’s Comet’s really “Halley’s”.

But today there’ll be no rally:

last posts are drowning out reveille.

The death of someone with his aura

was also sure to draw a plethora

of tinsel tributes and afford a

darker border to his bright aurora;

and so while mourners wait on corners

broadcasters fall about to call a

friend, a fawning old explorer

who deplores the loss of fauna, flora

and a host of other fading causes.

 

By now the whole world wants to stake a claim

to share the pain and, by association, fame;

just speak his name and get in on the game.

There’s no rationing the information.

Voices everywhere are crashing in,

hopeful they’ll cash in by splashing

their untimely allegations.

Tweeters clamour to complain:

if they’ve been listening in the rain,

contentment and containment sound the same –

although Guantanamo’s a shame.

 

 

Looking for answers, you may find the cost

is recovering ideas you didn’t know were lost.

Depression holds you down so you can’t get free

then drags your scraps inside the black settee.

 

Settee

I tend to find things which are difficult

to work out slip down the back of the settee.

You suspect they’re there but just can’t grab them:

instead there’s a handful of grubby coins

whose value you exaggerate at first.

That’s not what you hoped – compassion, purpose,

the capacity to communicate

without abstractions. These are out of reach, wedged

between a hidden rational framework

and upholstery’s giving intuition.

 

I still recall three questions my son

has asked me to which there was no answer –

once when he was ten: “why did you leave home?”

why, at twenty-one, I had no words of praise,

then “how do you feel?” when my father died.

I’m sure he wanted more than information,

not this embroidered cushion conversation;

I fumbled and groped for something out of range

but all I offered was some lost loose change.

 

It’s tough that all the stuff you feel down there

is real enough yet not what you suppose.

It may have been some use nine months ago

perhaps it solves a problem late next year.

But don’t expect to put an end to doubt

about to what your life and death amount.

It may be wiser to discover nothing

than to find that nothing is worth knowing;

a sofa’s disappointment’s not a lesson

when it sucks you down in its depression.

 

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